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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 18:54:38 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss. please take some time and think about this choice. it was an accident, It was not their fault. please think about how they are feeling without your love. they know YOU as their home and family. it may be very hard on them going to a new home. we have rodents also and have been rabbit sitting for the past month. it has been made policy in our home that NOBODY is let out of their cage for playtime in the same room as the cages unless I personally wiggle EVERY cage door hard to make sure they are shut. they are also never out of the cage unless I am in that room. things happen, it's sad, I know, but I have to be honest and say that all that is happening at this point, is the ferrets are being hurt because they don't understand that your bunny was not food. please try to set your anger aside, know it was an accident, learn whatever you can from this experience, and show them some love and try to move on.
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Post by sherik on Aug 11, 2012 19:04:26 GMT -5
I am truly sorry for your loss. Give it a couple of days. I had the same thing happen with my Bunny, Lucky Boi! He got out of his cage somehow. We were out shopping and had no idea. My jack russel terrier got Lucky. We could not even look at her. But realized that it is just instinct and had to move on. Still love my pup, but not at that time. We were also thinking of getting rid of her. But once some time passed, we got over it.
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Post by shiftyferret on Aug 11, 2012 19:10:36 GMT -5
I am saddened by your loss.
But I am glad to know you are not abusing them, even though you feel very strongly against them at this point in time. Honestly, I would feel the same if a dog or something got a hold of one of my ferrets and shredded it. I would never forgive the dog... even though I KNOW it would not by it's fault. They're following nature and it was not done out of cruelty.
I hope you find a suitable home that will take such good care of them soon. And keep defending them from your family, even though it may not be in your heart at the moment. I would hate to learn some one 'setting them free' or worse behind your back.
The only thing you can do know, is learn from this... a hard lesson at that... so Peter has not passed completely in vain. There are a lot of pets I would love to have... chameleons, birds, little fuzzies... but I will not, so long as I have ferrets/cats. For the simple fear of what you're going through right now. It has got to be one of the worst feelings a pet owner could have. I am very very sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 19:53:28 GMT -5
My dog killed a prized pet once...and my cats took the life of a baby I raised for years. A bullfrog and a male rat.
I watched Tickles, the rat, die. My dog didn't mean to harm him. She was simply curious. He went into shock and died.
My bullfrog had escaped his cage while we were on vacation. I couldn't find him anywhere (I was very young, too...like 7?) and one morning I walked out of my bedroom. He was on his back on the floor, one claw hole through his heart.
I found another of my frogs eaten alive by ants after a similar vacation horror.. It is hard to forgive. Very hard. I still get upset and frustrated with my dog and cats when I remember that they brought death to my little ones. I cannot forget, just as I cannot remember one of my most loved rats, Rosebud, without some dislike. She tried to kill my bird, and nearly succeeded.
Keeping different species unfortunately means accidents can happen and being hurt, angry, and upset are all normal feelings. Your girls love you. Try to give them a chance- they did not understand anymore than my dog. She didn't know that if she picked him up it would scare him literally to death. My cat didn't know the frog was my pet. To her he was an intruder. Lives were lost and I miss them. But I cannot hate my dog or cats. They are predators. I cannot hate Rosebud for trying to kill Angel. She was a lovely girl and only doing what nature said to.
Again, so sorry for your loss, you are not alone. But do try to love your girls, for both of your sakes.
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Post by darlene on Aug 11, 2012 19:57:25 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss,and if I lived closer I would take your fuzzies in a heartbeat. Hope you'll be able to have a change of heart and keep them. Please give it some time,sometimes we need to dig deep inside to overcome such tragedy,it is possible to love them again. Life is about overcoming what we think is impossible. Think of them,they LOVE and NEED you. I can send you an email addy of a lady who went thru a similar tragedy. I'm willing to bet if you wanted to talk to her,she'd be happy to talk.
As far as the comment that polecatty posted,I like to think that she/he wasn't trying to be mean,I take it as a wakeup call.....that maybe people should be thinking about what type of pets they keep and what could happen. (I'm in NO way judging holtzchick)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 20:38:29 GMT -5
Regardless of what Polecatty and Sushi's intentions were, there is a time and a place for a lecture and this is NOT it. Holzchick, I do think you should give it a few days but if you feel like you will just continue to resent your girls you should stand by your decision.
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Post by darlene on Aug 11, 2012 21:13:47 GMT -5
holtzchick I really hope you give it more than a few days before deciding what to do. You're in alot of pain and I'd hate to see you make a decision you might regret later.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 21:29:26 GMT -5
I've been in your position: Growing up one of my pet bunnies was eaten by my moms dog, another by my moms ferret. I lost 4 birds to my cat, I lost another bird to my mothers raccoon. I almost lost my cat to a fox, twice. My cat ate my hermit crabs. I can't count the number of times the food chain was in effect in my house growing up. My mom was a wildlife rehabilitator, the ones that couldn't be released became pets which meant we had a lot of random animals all living in the house at one time.
I was incensed and inconsolable every time it happened, I stomped and railed against the killers continuing to live in our home. I was devastated. I missed a week of school over grief when one of my brothers snakes ate my baby chicks I had rescued from a storm blown nest that killed the parents.
But you know what, each one of those killers were only doing what they were born to do and I realized that the fault lay with me. My irresponsibility gave the opportunity for creatures to follow their instincts. Our home was and always be a forever home for the animals that share it. I may get flamed for posting my opinion here, and I am VERY sorry you lost your bunny, especially since I know that pain, but I find it reprehensible you are treating your ferrets as disposable when they did nothing wrong.
~Kelli
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 21:44:24 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss.
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Post by goingpostal on Aug 11, 2012 21:47:40 GMT -5
Where is that in Ontario? I am across the border in MN.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 22:03:36 GMT -5
Thanks for posting that here, where there are good people that would be dedicated to your ferrets care. Sorry to hear about the incident with your bunny. I also have a bunny, birds and 6 ferrets in my home. And a dog and several cats. There is always a risk of this type of accident when mixing predators and prey animals. I agree with what she said. I have 7 birds and 2 rabbits along side my 4 ferrets. In fact, my ferrets live in the same room as my birds(thank god for ferret nations!) I would like to say that nobody is mad at you for this, maybe a bit upset, but not mad, and like has been said, it's a ferret's instincts to chase/kill rabbits. If your guy was free roaming, it happens. My hagrid was playing and he figured out if he pulled the fence off the wall, he could get out. so he did and he escaped and bit Mimzy's nose. after that he kept trying to get to her, but we caught him. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Peter, i hope you find homes for your little ones. [img src="http://i1105.photobucket.com/albums/h352/JW_2012/Emoticons/ i1105.photobucket.com/albums/h352/JW_2012/Emoticons/T_T.png"].png[/IMG]
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2012 23:35:52 GMT -5
I do not agree with people asking why she had them around her other animals. The point is it happened. So do not question her in her hard time. Its like saying if a baby died in bed with you. Why would you snuggle your child in bed. Things happens. She wants what is best for them. She is looking for help not for people to question her choices or decisions. I see the few who comments have not been on here long. But I will say. You are new. You may not know what to say or what not to say. So unless you are interested in helping her. Please do no comment. Thanks. As I am one of the posters who has the least number of posts in this thread I will assume that the last part of your post is dierected at me. I am not new- I was a member of the old HF for years and have been reading the new HF from it's beginning. I simply read more than I write and do not post frequently- but it does not mean that I am new. My post was not insensitive- I did state that I was sorry for her loss. I simply also stated that what the ferrets did was an instinctive reaction (which it was) and as such they didn't deserve to be punished (which they don't). My primary concern is for the ferrets, who will lose their home and people for doing what ferrets do.
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Post by allie516 on Aug 11, 2012 23:37:07 GMT -5
With the lost of my chinchillas the gas leak. I can never get another again. Yes it was an accident, No there was no way I could have stopped it. But It is human nature. I see a chinchilla I pick them up love on them for a moment then I see all of my babies and burst into tears putting the other chinchilla back where I picked them up from.
You may never be able to forgive. You will not forget. I really understand. No it was not another animal but It was something I feel I should have found before that happened.
IF you need and want to talk to someone who understands I am here. PM me. I may not be able to help you understand or help you heal but I am a ear to listen and a heart that will not judge.
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Post by Sherry on Aug 11, 2012 23:42:17 GMT -5
As far as the comment that polecatty posted,I like to think that she/he wasn't trying to be mean,I take it as a wakeup call.....that maybe people should be thinking about what type of pets they keep and what could happen. (I'm in NO way judging holtzchick) And that's exactly how I took it as well. Regardless of the appropriate time or place.
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Post by darlene on Aug 11, 2012 23:45:39 GMT -5
Reading thru the comments again,seems to me alot of people have made alot of the same comments you have made and weren't given heck over it.
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