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Post by pastelsummer on Feb 4, 2011 3:15:16 GMT -5
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Post by bluemoose on Feb 4, 2011 3:20:08 GMT -5
No one will yell at you. Everyone here can understand how difficult this is and that you only want what's best for him.
Where are you located? Maybe someone is near by and can take him in.
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Post by pastelsummer on Feb 4, 2011 3:20:52 GMT -5
before anyone asks this baby was not planned. I wouldnt deliberately get pregnanat with money this tight. We just couldnt get me to the dr fast enough to get my tubes tied. :sigh I am telling you because some people have been yelling at me for getting pregnant and i dont need anymore of it right now
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Post by pastelsummer on Feb 4, 2011 3:21:40 GMT -5
I am in Idaho Southern Idaho near burley and twin falls. If someone here could take him i would be so happy
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Post by bluemoose on Feb 4, 2011 3:27:26 GMT -5
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Post by pastelsummer on Feb 4, 2011 3:32:59 GMT -5
ok thanks
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 4:01:13 GMT -5
Sweetheart, no one is here to judge you! Please don't stress yourself out, no one is going to yell at you or lecture you, that's not what were about here! Babies happen, I know I have three! well, they're not babies any more  my youngest and last (or so my husband tells me) will be three in April... Over on the old HF I saw that you were on CM...is that where your getting all the flak from? I believe it if you are, been a member over there since the beginning, not very active now because of how dang judgemental some of those women are! First and foremost, do you have medical insurance, if not have you applied for medicaid for pregos? Most Dr's won't see you until your 8 wks, have you called to get your first appt? If so ask for some zofran, it's a godsent for nausea and morning sickness... for the mean time go to walmart and buy a chunk of ginger boil some water and let a few pieces (peel then slice thin) of ginger soak in the water, ginger is wonderful for calming an upset tummy and is baby safe. As for money, I understand completely how craptastic the economy is! You can do things like breastfeed and cloth diaper to help cut costs, thriftstore, consignment shops and Craigslist are all awesome places to find baby gear and CM has a group (or 100) dedicated to recalled baby gear so you can crossrefrence there. If your concerned about Henry's recent seizure talk to your vet about making a payment arraingment, or barter services, see if you can trade (If I remember correctly you have ducks, hens, roosters, rabbits and things of that sort) for services...tell him/her that hey we've hit a rough patch is there anyway you can work with me or give me a discount. You'd be surprised at how many will say yes... the worst they can say is no.... Right now your tired, stressed, hormonal, probably hungry but got the pukes, been there, your overwhelmed... go take a hot bath and relax. You raise most of what you feed Henry so you've already cut that cost... I know that when I get super stressed about money it helps to write it all down. One half of the paper for bills, gas, food and other things going out, and the other side for what's comming in (and for us right nowthat's not much, I was laid off back in June and still havent found work!) looking at what can be cut... I know I've cut down our dinners out, our cable is now basic, our cells now have the min., and over the last couple nights I called our creditcard companies and asked for lower intrest rates and did pretty good there too. Make a grocery list and stick too it, watch the sales add and bring them with you, Walmart price matches any adds that are non-customer card related. places like CVS and walgreens will have gallons of milk for $2.50 once a month.... |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 4:01:44 GMT -5
sorry so long |
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Post by pastelsummer on Feb 4, 2011 4:19:31 GMT -5
thank you for that i needed it. I am on medicaid plus foodstamps now so it helps but it is still a stress with dh only working 1 day a weeks. with that and a few things we have going we bring in about 400 a month. so it is super tight plus now since i gave away EVERYTHING for a baby thinking we were done i have to start from scratch. And the sewing machine broke, so there goes making most of what we need. It is very very stressful right now
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Post by bluemoose on Feb 4, 2011 4:24:45 GMT -5
Maybe you can get a cheap sewing machine off CL or from the thrift store? I know money is tight but if it will save you money in the long run it would probably be worth it.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 4:35:21 GMT -5
I understand the stress! That's why my youngest was breastfed until she was two and cloth diapered! Don't forget about WIC, and your local churches... Catholic Charities, and Christian Sharing center are usually great help when it comes to helping with utilities and clothing.
Heck, put an add on CL in the wanted and baby/kids section asking for help with things that you may need, also keep an eye on the free section, there is always stuff there... and if you can swing it, babysit during the day, there are tons of people outthere looking for affordable childcare! Two kids at $50 a week = an extra $400 a month (obviously you'd charge more for an infant...right now I have a 4 year old boy that I charge $60 a week for)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 4:36:37 GMT -5
I also make my own laundry detergent  yes I am that cheap!!! |
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Post by joclyn on Feb 4, 2011 5:22:31 GMT -5
look for a freecycle group in your area - great way to get gently used items (and sometimes the stuff is new/unused, too) for nothing more than the time it takes to respond to a post and then drive over and pick up the stuff!
freecycle.org and look for your state and city and click on that link to get to the yahoo group to sign up 
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 5:37:35 GMT -5
great idea! I had forgotten all about Freecycle!!!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2011 6:42:37 GMT -5
I would also suggest couponing. I'm a coupon freak! I have gotten $450 worth of food and personal care for only $170! If nothing else it can make food stamps stretch freeing up more money else where if you're spending over the food stamps. If you're interested in learning how to do it feel free to PM me. There was one woman on YouTube who got $200 or groceries for .01 ! That's right one penny! Also, if your getting flack at CM I too know all too well how horrid a lot of those women can get! Don't pay them any attention!
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